How Divorce Brought Out the New Me
During my 18 year marriage, there were kids, pets, houses, jobs, groceries, laundry, etc. Day in, day out. Of course, these things are still part of my life, but during the marriage, they became routines, expectations, sometimes even boredom. Don’t get me wrong, there was often some crisis, or celebration going on but overall, just a bunch of life distractions.
Then the rug got yanked out when my ex had an affair and the marriage came to an end. I was absolutely devastated. But in the couple of years that followed, as I healed and moved on, something really wonderful happened. First, I survived. At times I really wasn’t sure I would. But I did. I realized that if I could get through that, there wasn’t much that could take me down! Second, my perspective changed. Instead of thinking about when I was going to be able to take a little vacation from myself, I started thinking about how I was going to become the very best version of myself that I could be. I started to dream of bigger and better things knowing that if I failed, I could get back up.
Before my divorce, I was pretty insecure and really concerned about what other people thought of me. Now I know that the only opinion that matters is mine and I can see the stress in other people and am filled with empathy. Feeling the depth of emotion that I did in my divorce somehow bonded me to the human race in a way I never expected. I see things at a completely different level now, a much deeper, more meaningful level. I’m compelled to have impact on those around me and lift up others that are going through trauma.
Now, years later, I’m still realizing daily that everything happens for a reason and my divorce was an event that has propelled my personal growth and life of fulfillment. If your fear of what your future will look like is your only reason to stay, have faith that today really is the first day of the rest of your life and you have the power to decide what today will look like. And what the future will look like. Let us help you take the fear out of that decision.
More from Smarter Divorce Solutions...
Let’s Get Started
Let us help you have a smarter divorce, no need to waste thousands in a court battle. We will contact you to set up your Smarter Divorce Strategy Session.
In Your Strategy Session We’ll:
- Explore your divorce options and get clear on the right solution for your situation
- Review your finances and explore creative settlement ideas
- Map out a plan for transitioning to the next phase of your life
- Identify your biggest fears and decide the best way to address them
- Connect you with any other resources you’ll need in your process
Only 10 sessions available each month! Schedule today to ensure availability!