5 Tips On How To Deal With Holiday Stress

by Dec 14, 2020

This year is like no other year we’ve ever experienced. The pandemic is making a mess out of our lives! And the holidays and divorce may be adding another layer for you to navigate. What I hear from clients, colleagues, and even myself is that living through this pandemic has brought issues to the surface that can make things intolerable.

Even if you’re putting off your divorce process until January, you will still have demands that can be emotional triggers for you.

Tips For The Holidays

Here are 5 tips to help you deal with that stress and anxiety you might be feeling:

1.  Ask Yourself What It Is That You Really Want

We have spent many years worrying about what others need and it’s time to think about what you need. Do you want enjoyment and connection?  Do you really want to go to a gathering?  Are you afraid of upsetting someone by saying no? Consider taking the “shoulds” and “obligations” out of the picture for yourself this year. You don’t “have to” do anything different, so it really is up to you!

2. Be Forgiving of Yourself If You “React”

Do some self-coaching and let go of blame, resentment, and judgment. Focus on other aspects of yourself, that you love. Notice any negative or self-deprecating thoughts, and replace them with positive affirmations like “I am kind, I am trustworthy, I am generous.”

3. Practice How To Say No Without Guilt

Remember all the years you committed to too many obligations, events, cookies and spending too much money? Begin a new practice of setting healthy boundaries. Pay closer attention to feeling guilty, afraid of disappointing others, and resentment or being irritable because you feel taken advantage of. This will give you an awareness of when a boundary has been crossed.

4. Practice Self-Care That Is Restorative

Self care does not have to cost a lot of money. Take a few minutes to meditate at the beginning or end of the day, journal on the smallest things you are grateful for, and engage in activities such as walking or yoga that you can totally do on your own. Engage in acts of kindness towards yourself everyday. You deserve this!

5. Slow Down

Take some of your new found time to breath. Slowing down will help you notice each moment and what kind of energy you’re bringing to it. When you choose to nurture and love yourself right where you are, you will keep a higher vibration which will ripple out to others.

You Can Do It

This will be a holiday season like no other, and we can learn from both the positive and negative events we’ve experienced. All of us at Smarter Divorce Solutions are wishing you and your loved ones a safe and healthy holiday season.

Sending love and blessings to you all.

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